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www.canadianlawyermag.com 39 Chris Helder is one of the world's most outstanding speakers on the topic of communication, leadership and influence. He is the author of the newly released book The Simple Shift, as well as three other bestselling books: Useful Belief, Cut the Noise and The Ultimate Book of Influence. matters. It opens up your mind to new possibilities. 4. Your body reflects your mind One thing that can help us all is called the Mind-Body Loop. Useful beliefs affect the thoughts you have in your mind and change your perception of the world. Those thought patterns and beliefs, in turn, influence your body movement. By the same token, how you move your body affects what you think about. What the mind harbours the body will manifest. Healthy people have better posture than sad people. Successful people have better posture than people who feel they are failing. If you observe someone with excellent posture, you'll notice that their body language conveys that they are alert and awake. When the body is alert and awake, the mind is alert and awake as well. 5. The first words we say every day It is interesting to look at the words we say to ourselves first thing in the morning to start our day. Do we use words that get us excited about the gift of a new day? Or do we use words that tell us what a grind today is going to be? The most important words we say all day are the words we say to ourselves about ourselves when we are by ourselves. Most people are cruel in those moments. Be nice. Be the best version of you. LIFE IS complicated. In fact, it's more complicated than everything that society is going through as a result of COVID-19, including the lack of certainty as to what life will look like when we come out the other end. It's now more important than ever to think usefully. Here are five tips that can help you do exactly that. 1. Transform bad habits into good Typical motivation speakers tell us to be positive. Our parents told us to try to be positive. Our teachers told us to be positive. Well, here we go: Idea number one — positive thinking doesn't really work. I don't teach positive thinking. I teach this word: useful. With all that's been happening recently, if you have been in a rut for the last six days, six weeks or even six months, it's not positive thinking that's going to get you out of it. It's useful thinking. If you feel like you are at ground zero in your life, the question is not how can you be positive. Rather, you should ask yourself: What is the most useful thing you can do to get from zero to two? What is the most useful action you can take to get from two to five? What about getting from five to eight? To progress, the question is also: What is the most useful thing you should believe about your reality? This thinking leads you to discover what is really important and helps get you through this situation. 2. Times are tough if you let them be Some people would rather subscribe to tough times. These are tough times. These are unprecedented, challenging times. Some people love to be unhappy and want to stay that way. If this is you, I do have some good news for you. You will have a lot of friends. You will probably have minimal personal success, but on the plus side, you will have a lot of people to discuss the seriousness of these tough times with you. Misery does in fact love company. 3. Gratitude leads to greater things Let me ask you: Do you spend most of your time thinking about all the things that are wrong or all the things you have going for you? Do you think about all the things you don't have or do you think about all the things you do have? Actually, forget about all the things you have. Some people right now may not feel like they have that much. That's not actually what is really important. Instead, do you think about all the things you don't have or do you think about all the opportunities that could be coming your way? That's what really With all that's been happening recently, if you have been in a rut for the last six days, six weeks or even six months, it's not positive thinking that's going to get you out of it. It's useful thinking